“Effective listening is more than simply avoiding the bad habit of interrupting others while they are speaking or finishing their sentences. It’s being content to listen to the entire thought of someone rather than waiting impatiently for your chance to respond.” – Richard Carlson, Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
I found myself the other day interrupting someone very important to me while they were speaking.
I would generally consdier myself a good listener, but what is a good listener?
Interrupting somebody while they are expressing their emotions and thoughts is most definately NOT good listening.
“Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart. And those who learn to listen are the most loved and respected.” – Richard Carlson, Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
Learning to sit with another human, to be calm and open. To be the place that gives them comfort in expressing their thoughts, is truly a great blessing and by interrupting or allowing your mind to wander or your eyes to focus on something other than theirs is an act of disrespect and disservice.
In this moment for me I felt that I was “right” and what I had to say was more valid or more important, and now 36 hours later I realize that every thought and every expression of somebodys honest emotion is equally “right” and equally important.
Disagreements can be very challenging to work through when emotion is involved. In my experience, and I admit I am not always incredible at this, but if you can slow your response, take a nice strong deep breath and speak from a place of love with honest kindness .
Kindness is never wrong. Kindness is always right.
Try and recognize that we all have thought, we all have feelings and emotions and we all desserve to have them heard.
So if you are speaking with someone, be it a stranger, a lover, a student, a coworker, your child, your parent, anybody, in any situation… Just listen.